Saturday, June 18, 2011

Dad is still the more popular one!

my son's drawing in 2007

My little girl insisted I'm the "employer" and his dad is an "employee" even though he & I own and run the same company. Know why? My hubby is always telling the kid that "Mom is the boss."

My following Yahoo blog entry in 2007 explains how I earn this GREAT title in this family:

1) When my kids beg to play computer game at odd hours, their father who does not want to disappoint them (directly) will say to them : "Go ask the boss."

3) When my kids request some expensive new toys, their father who refuses to be the bad guy will say to them: "Go ask the boss".

3) When my kids ask for MacDonald's much too often until their daddy starts to get confused whether or not it is a healthy food will say to them "Go ask the boss".

Usually my duty is pretty simple yet cruel, that's to give them a big NO plus a big Disappointment.

"Aren't you the boss in the office? Can't you make the decision?" They questioned their father.
"Yes. But at home mommy is the Boss of The Boss!"

Am I thrilled with the title? NOT AT ALL!
Hey, it means "The Bad Guy of The Bad Guy"!!!

There's another blog entry in 2007 about my daughter's choice of shoe.

...We went shopping & she picked a pair of pink shoes with heels. I refused to let her buy because I did not want her to hurt her ankle. We ended up buying nothing.

But one fine evening, she and her father came home happily with that pair of SHOES! I was surprised + crossed and gave both of them a piece of my mind. My hubby "thought" I had given the green light and my clever daughter said nothing about it. ("Act blur").

Being the GOOD GUY, my hubby said, "for that pair of shoes, I'll be scolded by your mom for many days."

Being the BAD GUY, I bought my daughter another pair of shoes that I considered as "safe and healthy". However, as a compromise, I let her decide which to wear depending on the occasions.
The above was written 4 years ago. Today I must admit I'm still the bad guy and my popularity score does not seem to improve at all.
Once I warned him that he's going to spoil his daughters and his future son-in-laws will be suffering. Guess what he said... "Well, just let me enjoy my daughters and it's ok to let other men suffer."

Oh yes, he is also the good guy who would quietly bring our son for his favourite "bak kut teh" without letting me know. (I do not want them to have it too often)

My kids are truly blessed to have such a wonderful father.
Even though I'm not as popular, at least I know how to chose a good father for my kids, so they should trust my good judgements and listen to all my orders, right?!

As parent, it's important to do what's right and not what is popular...even though at times it's after much struggling.

I know being a good father is not an easy task too.

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY to every great father out there!
(Wishing Pakmat, Uncle Lee and mr cityding a happy father's day too)


薰衣草夫人 said...


Uncle Lee said...

Hi Yuin Ting, one of the best postings I've read about a father, ha ha, love your style of writing too.
And yes, fathers tend to spoil daughters, kids.
I have a good friend here, the daughter can twist him around her little finger. She's really beautiful too, with mom's good looks.

For her previous birthday, an Apple Iphone.
And for 21st birthday? A BMW X5 suv!!! Holy smoke.
The mom had smoke coming out of her ears, ha ha.
Guess who's the boss, ha ha.

citiding said...

A good wife and a good mother.

Sunny-Cookie said...

It's wonderful that you have a loving husband and your children have a loving father :)

It's the same in my family too, dad's the more popular one. My kids would try to get their way by asking dad for something which they know I would disapprove of, so now my hubby tells them, "Go ask your mom first"

YuinTing said...


Hi Uncle Lee, thanks for your compliments. Even my son can sense that his father treats him stricter than his 2 sisters. He said "dad hardly smile at me the way he smiles as TH & TZ". (actually my hubby loves all 3 equally).

WOW! Your friend really sayang his daughter very much. BMW?? I think I'll just hold a birthday party for my girl in A&W.

Thanks for your compliment, mr citiding. I'm trying my best...I hope my kids have a lot of good childhood memories to cherish. I hope they grow up healthily and happily.

Hi Sunny-Cookie, I think if we do a survey, 9 out of 10 will say DAD IS THE MORE POPULAR ONE. Luckily I'm not alone, ha! ha!

If my hubby says "go ask mommy first", my kids will say "aiya, if ask mommy sure cannot one lah..." Sometimes I know they use reverse psychology but I'd just ignore it. You need Opposition party for "check and balance", right?