Thursday, June 30, 2011

Pa, Dad, Daddy...

Archery at Sunway Pyramid a week before Father's Day

My son said his father treats his sisters better than him. For example, when his sister drops something, his dad will ask:"What happen? Are you OK?" On the other hand, if he's drops something, he thinks his dad will say: "What happen? Did something wrong again?"

I know my hubby loves all 3 the same. It's just that he's stricter on his son, or to be more precise, the future HIM. He has high expectations and wants his son to set high goals and go all out to achieve them. He doesn't like those who "talk a lot but cannot deliver".

My hubby is a brave and tough guy, and he wants his son to be the same too. I once saw him showing off the scars on his hands and legs to his son. Those are his badges of courage from knife cut, acid drip etc. I don't think he would ever want those ugly scars on his daughters' delicate skin. If my son can see this point, he'll realize that men just treat their sons differently from daughters.


Superimposed photos taken during Halloween '11

I even notice my daughters call my hubby "dad" , or "daddy" (in a "manja" tone )
As for my boy, it's either "dad", or "pa" (instead of daddy).
And I either call him by name, "daddy" or "lao gong" (ahem... when want to manja too)



Well... son, I know you like weapons such as knives and guns. But you'll eventually learn that's girls have their secret weapons too.

6 comments:

Uncle Lee said...

Hi Yuin Ting, good posting. I like your hubby. My kid of man.....And yes, every father wants his son to grow up maybe have some of 'him'.

And daughters are a father's weak link....especially, girls at a very young age practice their flirting on their fathers....they know how to soften up their fathers, ha ha.
Me? I flirt with my grandmothers to earn money....

Hey, you look good in that 'Wonder woman' costume, daughter too.
Great pics....
Best regards.
Lee.

reanaclaire said...

hey.. i think most fathers like to manja their girls, they feel that girls are more fragile and delicate.. (just like their wife?) hehehe..
by the way, i came to your blog via Eugene's blog...
Like the way you post up too.. will add u in my bloglist :)

Sunny-Cookie said...

Hi YuinTing,

Welcome to the turbulent teenage years! Being a mother of 2 teenagers I understand how you feel when your son complains about being unfairly treated but don't worry, it's just part of being a teenager...I think you and your husband are doing a wonderful job raising your children and it's great that you all spend time doing things together as a family :)

YuinTing said...

Hi Uncle Lee, thanks for your compliment. My son observed that "men are strict to their sons, yet women are strict to their daughters". Well, that's how my hubby & I treat him & his sisters. For daughters, I want them to grow up as confident, educated & independent ladies. I even told them to always respect their bodies and treat it like a temple and not a public toilet.

Hi Claire, welcome! Guess that's because men always feel that women are weaker (physically) and thus need their protection. And my girls' tears can surely melt their daddy's heart...

Hi Sunny-Cookie, I really believe that spending time with kids and are extremely important. You're also a very dedicated mom, and I'm sure we know that those memories with our beloved kids are something money cannot buy :-)

薰衣草夫人 said...

唉,我家男人也是对儿子这样讲话的,我骂他偏心!

YuinTing said...

夫人,我们的皆是独子。或许因为这点所以他们的父亲额外严格,把期望都寄托在儿子身上。所谓爱之深,责之切。